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Inspiring Woman - Amber Harper

           I remember the first time meeting Amber...she had just joined the AAU team that I was playing on. Dynamite 87 was our team name...and we walked around looking like little boys, but you didn't want to see us on the court!! LOL!! I remember Amber came to the team with DEFENSE!!!! We both ended up leaving the team, and then randomly ended up at McMurry University together our freshman year. I only stayed at McMurry for a year...but that didn't stop any of the fun that was had! I vividly remember going out one night with Amber and some others, and they all entrusted me to drive us to and from the club without my glasses on. I can PROMISE you that we had the Lord and ALL of our guardian angels in the car with us that night!!!!!! Over the years I have watched Amber be a complete BOSS in everything that she has done...and lately have been sooooo inspired by her courage and determination to start her own business, and completely KILL it!!!!! I am so than...
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I am NOT my skin

 



Listen...it's 2021...I need for ALL white people and black men who don't date black women 😒 to STOP telling black women that they are BEAUTIFUL FOR A BLACK WOMAN. There is nothing complimentary about that statement...and it is rather ignorant. 

This black woman is beautiful PERIOD...and being BLACK is just the cherry on top. I am NOT my skin...and if the color of my skin is the first thing you see when you look at me...then you have MAJOR work to do on yourself. 

So...let me tell you what happened...

The other day, I joined a Real Estate group on Facebook for new Real Estate Agents. I posted the pic above and introduced myself. One man decided that it was appropriate to say the following (not quoted 100%) "You are one of the most beautiful black women that I have ever seen. I would date a black woman like you, and would tell my son to date a black woman like you." 

First of all...WHY? Just WHY?? I have NEVER seen a white man say, "she's beautiful for a WHITE woman." 

Second...I posted on a page for networking purposes...I wasn't posting to get compliments or to be told that I was beautiful. It was about business. Why do my looks even have to come into play? I didn't see any men or women calling the men on the page handsome, or saying that they were handsome for a black man. I just don't understand?? 

Third...I went back the next morning to comment on the post, and respectfully educate him (even though that isn't my job), only to find that the post had been DELETED. I messaged ADMIN, who just so happens to be a white woman, and not only did she not respond, she also REMOVED me from the group.

MAKE IT MAKE SENSE...how does my post get deleted, AND I get removed?? I said, nor did, anything inappropriate at all whatsoever. If ADMIN was offended (which, doesn't make any sense), why not just delete HIS comment? Why delete my entire post? How does a white woman get to be offended for me? 

How do white people in general get to decide what is and isn't offensive to black people or people of color? And why, instead of correcting the person in the wrong, do you "punish" the person that the ignorance was directed towards? 

I want this post to make people feel uncomfortable, and I want it to sound like a rant, because it is...but I also want it to make people stop and think about the things that they say. He may very well have not meant anything negative behind what he said, but that doesn't change the fact that what he said was in fact, negative. I didn't find that statement to be a compliment at all. I also didn't feel like it was necessary to delete my post or remove me from the group, but I think that that was her comfort zone. 

So I say all of that to say this...

STOP BEING COMFORTABLE IN YOUR IGNORANCE. 

START EDUCATING YOURSELF.

Go compliment someone today...without using the color of their skin...

Lot's of Love! 💙

Rebekah 


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